Raising
a precocious son is challenging for most
parents, but that was the one trait that
Randy and Marla Newman used as their
guide in gauging the recovery of their
17 year-old son, Matthew. After
suffering a head injury during a high
school football game in early September
2009, they wondered for months if what
makes him “him” would ever return. Four
months later, they see glimpses of the
boy he used to be.
One of the popular kids with a life full
of friends, school, and sports, Matthew
was excited the day of the first home
game. Out the previous season due to
knee surgery, he was anxious to prove
himself on the field, both as starting
quarterback and safety. He did not
disappoint. There were no indications
that something was amiss as the game
went into overtime, perhaps not even to
Matthew. But no one will likely ever
know, as he has no recollection of the
majority of the game or for that matter,
the next few weeks.
Matthew collapsed on the field as he
made his way over to the sideline to get
the coach’s instructions for the next
play. As he lay absolutely motionless in
the grass, it wasn’t immediately obvious
what had happened. There was no big hit,
no contact that left everyone waiting to
see if he would get up. Looking back,
his family was left to wonder if a hard
hit he took in the opening play of the
game caused his injury and it just took
a while for it to affect him, was it the
result of a series of smaller hits, or
was it the fact that he may have been
playing with a headache from a previous
concussion?
No matter the cause, Matthew was in
serious trouble. Thankfully, a trauma
team had assembled at the hospital and
was awaiting his arrival, as his
swelling brain required immediate
surgery. It would be days before they
would know if he would make it.
Fast forward through the next agonizing
months and the seven surgeries, the
infection that almost took his life
again, and the realization that yes,
maybe he could be home for the start of
the new year. Those thoughts became part
of the conversation around Thanksgiving,
when Matthew started shooting Nerf
basketball and rubber arrows at the
nurses. Some of those annoying little
traits he’d had before were suddenly a
source of joy.
Finally
home, Matthew spends his days in
physical therapy where he works to
regain his normal gait and restore his
upper body strength, adding both weight
and muscle to his 6’2” frame. A tutor
will help him catch up with his
classwork beginning next week, and he
hopes to attend school as soon as he
can. He misses his friends.
As for the family’s healing process,
Matthew is helping them now, as much as
they’re helping him. Mom Marla says, “
He appreciates life, his family, and
friends, more than anyone I know. He
reminds us everyday how lucky we are to
be together. Matthew has lessons to
teach us all.”
We’re listening.
Note: Dirk Knudsen, Editor of Washington
& OregonPreps.com started a campaign to
raise awareness about Matthew’s injury
entitled, “Raise7 for Matthew”. This
amazing effort reached athletes as far
away as Japan and New Zealand. Matthew’s
Aunt Michelle has played an integral
role in this campaign as well. Click on
the Raising 7 for Matthew logo for more
information.
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